Guide to Pregnancy & Adoption

1. Making the adoption decision

No one can make this decision for you. You are in charge of your future and your child’s future.  Understanding the options available to you may be helpful as you make an informed choice. It is our hope this Guide to Pregnancy & Adoption can help you navigate through your journey. 

Here are some general questions to ask yourself:

Every situation is unique; what is right for you may not be right for other expecting parents. We encourage you to make the best-informed decision that you can. If you need help thinking through your options, please reach out to us! We specialize in pregnancy options counseling.

2. Choosing an adoption agency

If you choose to explore adoption options for your child, there are many adoption agencies to choose from. Ultimately, you want to select an ethical agency that can help you in your situation, whatever that may be.  Talking to an adoption professional at an agency can give you an idea of how that agency operates and what is important to them.

At Adoption Life, we consider an adoption placement where all parties feel supported and valued as the only acceptable outcome to an adoption.  We provide personal and professional service to expectant parents as well as adoptive families, and love to keep in touch with people long after the adoption happens.  We would love to see if we are a good fit for your situation.

3. Choosing an adoptive family

Choosing the family you feel would be a perfect fit for your child can be an exciting and overwhelming time. You may be thinking, “There are so many qualified families out there, how can I choose?” We suggest the following tasks to help guide you through this process.

4.Counseling with an Adoption Professional & Preparing for Placement

Right now, you may not be able to imagine yourself actually giving your child to a family to care for and to raise to adulthood.  With counseling and support from our experienced adoption professionals, you will be able to work through the emotions of this very challenging and life changing decision.  You may feel adoption is the best decision early on in your pregnancy, but as your child grows inside you, and the reality of your decision becomes clearer, this decision may become more difficult. 

Difficult choices always come with consequences, both good and hard.  Our hope is that the consequence of this choice–whatever that choice is–will be peace.

If you choose to have an open adoption, we will support you in nurturing this relationship. Our desire is that you will have a lifelong, loving, familial relationship with the adoptive family you choose for your child. At Adoption Life, we believe that these positive and nourishing relationships can be woven together into a beautiful family tree.

Our caring adoption specialists will support and educate you throughout the adoption process.  They will help you to identify the characteristics of an adoptive family that is most important to you, and then help you through the matching process.  They will listen to you while you express your possible feelings of loss and even grief about placement. They will explain the relinquishment process to you, and provide care and comfort as you determine how you would like to sign the placement paperwork. 

Our goal for you is that you will be able to make choices that you will feel comfortable with throughout your life.

The care you will receive from Adoption Life is life long.  You will have different feelings throughout your life, and we will be here to provide the support and resources you need to positively cope with your adoption story.

5. Delivery and Planning for the Hospital

The hospital is an important part of your adoption story. Making sure you have a well thought-out hospital plan can help things go more smoothly. Your adoption professional will help you prepare for the hospital in great detail but you may want to consider the following when preparing for delivery and for your hospital stay:

Your adoption professional will work closely with the hospital social workers to prepare their staff for your personalized adoption plan. It’s still a good idea to think through and talk with your adoption professional about your expectations for delivery, bonding with your baby, and your desires for a beautiful adoption experience. At Adoption Life, we will support you in your plan, so when the time comes to give birth, you are as prepared as possible. 

Your plan is not set in stone; your wants and needs might change. Your adoption professional will be with you throughout the process to help you cope with your changing emotions, as well as to be your advocate with the hospital staff and other professionals. 

This is YOUR baby.  YOUR choice.  YOUR adoption story.

6. Placement

Life after adoption can be healthy, fulfilling, and happy. You may have some difficult times after placement but you can work through them with support. We would never ask you to “forget your child” or “get over” adoption but you can learn positive coping skills that allow you to grieve appropriately and still feel comfortable in your decision.

At Adoption Life, you will have LIFELONG support after placement. We will support you not only through adoption professionals but also through other birth parents that have been where you are, felt what you are feeling, and are living wonderful lives. We will help you find resources that will help you move forward in honor of your sacrifice. This not only means support for your placement but also helping you find ways to have a well-rounded, healthy life after placement.

7. Life after Placement

Life after adoption can be healthy, fulfilling, and happy. You may have some difficult times after placement but you can work through them with support. We would never ask you to “forget your child” or “get over” adoption but you can learn positive coping skills that allow you to grieve appropriately and still feel comfortable in your decision.

At AdoptionLife.org, you will have LIFELONG support after placement. We will support you not only through adoption professionals but also through other birth parents that have been where you are, felt what you are feeling, and are living wonderful lives. We will help you find resources that will help you move forward in honor of your sacrifice. This not only means support for your placement but also helping you find ways to have a well-rounded, healthy life after placement

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